tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286080055976492536.post1958151903425623306..comments2023-08-15T06:14:45.365-05:00Comments on 2 Peas in the Pod: The business of dying...Brooke Simmonshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13586889706558409311noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286080055976492536.post-35423965217933473152010-11-04T23:22:52.416-05:002010-11-04T23:22:52.416-05:00Brooke,
I agree with Anonymous about taking time t...Brooke,<br />I agree with Anonymous about taking time to decide about the headstone. You don't have to do that right now and you certainly aren't going forget to get it done. The treasure you are writing for the girls is where all the wonderful details are going to go.<br />We put a special phrase on one family members headstone, and each time I see it, a ton of memories pour into my head. The phrase only covered one tiny aspect of that person's life, but the "domino effect" of inter-connected events, comments,sayings,& pictures rush forward.<br />Someday, the words in your blog are also going to be treasures for your girls - to let them see how important an avenue of expression is when they deal with their own grief in later years. <br />Much love to youJan Mnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286080055976492536.post-2550589383815918372010-11-02T18:05:55.057-05:002010-11-02T18:05:55.057-05:00It is bizarre that I came across your blog tonight...It is bizarre that I came across your blog tonight. You see, today I finally finished the design for my husband's headstone. He died fifteen months ago. Designing the headstone has been absolutely one of the most difficult tasks that I've had to complete along this grief journey. What words can one say? It has terrified me thinking I'd mess it up somehow - and it's permanent! But it finally came together in its own time. Sadly, it makes his death a terrible reality. It forces me to have to face the fact that our relationship is now over. I want to move on, but the feelings are still there hanging on...missing him.<br /><br />In the beginning, I thought the constant overload of paperwork and legal forms would never end, but it does. (Well, at least it slows down to a trickle.)In the beginning I thought I'd never smile again, let alone laugh. But I can smile now. I can laugh again. <br /><br />Don't rush anything. Take your time. It's your grief. This business of dying really stinks!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286080055976492536.post-66015319928387182442010-11-02T17:27:04.849-05:002010-11-02T17:27:04.849-05:00Wow Brooke... You really have SO much weighing on...Wow Brooke... You really have SO much weighing on your mind. And I absolutely think that if you feel like writing a 300-page book to those girls, then you do it. They will cherish every inch of memory you can provide to them about their daddy.<br /><br />PS- He would have laughed at what you said to the organ donor lady. :)<br /><br />SShannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02843094940004536310noreply@blogger.com